The Confidence Myth

We keep telling women to "be more confident, speak up, own the room." But that advice puts the whole thing on you - and it's fixing the wrong thing.
Here's the truth: the confidence gap is an information gap in disguise. Confidence isn't something you're born with. It's built - through reps, through evidence, through knowing how to move. You were never behind. You were under-briefed.
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Because every workplace runs a second curriculum - five things nobody ever put in your job description:
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→ Visibility - do the right people know what you're capable of?
→ Decision mechanics - how do promotions here actually get decided?
→ Sponsorship - who says your name when you're not in the room?
→ Positioning - what are you known for in one sentence?
→ Timing & the ask - do you know when, and how, to ask?
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What changes Monday:

1. Translate every "I'm not ready" into a real question - what don't I know yet?

2. Start a Receipts file - your wins, numbers and proof.

3. Draw the decision map - ask how the last few promotions really happened.

4. Name your sponsor - and if there isn't one, that's your project.

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Confidence isn't the starting line. It's the receipt. Stop trying to feel ready - go get the playbook, and bring your sisters with you.